Do you have Mr. Big Syndrome?

Studies show, and by studies I mean Cosmo, yahoo answers, and countless blogs show that more than half the women in the world suffer or have suffered from "Mr. Big syndrome".

  

  What the heck is Mr. Big syndrome? If you are a fan of the hit show and movie(s) Sex and The City, then you should have an idea of this syndrome. For those who are not so familiar, Mr. Big was the handsome, charismatic love interest of the fabulous Carrie Bradshaw( the main character). For five years, Carrie and Big had a dysfunctional, on and off again relationship due to Bigs' commitment phobia. Carrie, despite dating other men could not drop Big, even when he married a girl 10 years younger than her AND left her at the alter. 

 Carrie, though she tried just couldn't shake big, he was that guy that would go away for some time but show right back up just when you were getting over him. He was that guy who was amazing in bed and very few could compare. He was the guy who you had intellectual conversations with, and because he was so open with you, you thought "why aren't we together?"

 

 I currently am experiencing Mr. Big syndrome, but then again I swear I'm Carrie Bradshaw(lol). At the tender, young age of 19 ,again, I am suffering from this syndrome. I won't go into the whole background story but it has been awhile and a episode honey. 

 We see girls who "chase" these guys like Carrie, they cry, curse them out then take them right back expecting change(though we know deep down he will never change) but after years( the average time span of Mr. Big syndrome) we as women decide to move on or if we get lucky like Carrie, we end up marrying our Big. 

What makes these "Bigs" out here so addicting that we just don't want to leave them alone? It may be the charm, the sex, the money, or intelligence that he possesses and of course that little bit of bad boy or it may be that we as women are addicted to the thrill of knowing that "he will always be back " and that he is just so unattainable. 

We ask ourselves these questions daily, but when will we be over this syndrome? Welp, that's up to you. See Carrie and Bigs eventually got married, so where does that leave us normal gals? If you are truly over the syndrome, then prove it to yourself. I have learned from my experience with the syndrome that sometimes, you have to just move on with life because wasting time and emotions sucks for you and your friends because they're the ones who will have to hear the story 50 times. 

To my "Mr.Big" if you are reading this, curse you and your charm. I'm not sure if it was love, addiction, or lust but whatever it was served as my guilty pleasure. 

    

To the writers of Sex and The City, thanks for selling us regular girls some hope 

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